Couples Therapist Shivani Misri Sadhoo says some couples experience high levels of conflict. Reactions get triggered, sometimes in an instant. They look to move rapidly to anger, harshness, blame, criticism, and hostility. Flare-ups become common. Out-of-control emotions seem all too frequently, dominating the relationship.
How you respond to your spouse, how your spouse responds to you shapes your emotions in very vital ways. When you experience your partner understanding and validating what is going on for you. You feel valued, cared for, even soothed. When you experience harshness, criticism, and invalidation, it is like salt on an open wound. Over time the pain and suffering that partners endure forms distance, isolation, and loneliness. What was once a breeding ground of caring and warmth now feels cold and toxic. No question regarding it, these hurtful and painful methods of relating are stressful and exhausting.
Reactive couples very much look to move out of what appears to be these inevitable cycles of painful escalation yet look really unable to do so. These couples require more than intimacy-building or communication methods on how to improve their love relationships.
They need to have control of emotions first, to stop making things worse. Only then forming a better relationship becomes possible.
Counselor Shivani says DBT has some principles that it needs to work upon in a therapy session with couples. Here are some of them.
Couples Counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo says there are few things that you can expect from DBT in a Couples Therapy Session. They are.
Marriage Counselor Shivani Misri Sadhoo says there are some important things one can get to addressed at Saarthi Counselling Services in a DBT session for couples. These are.